Dating an aspie man
After I told my girlfriends about Aspergers, one of them told me the story of her former mate, who was also an Aspie.
She had met him on an online dating site and they hit it off nicely after which she discovered he was unfaithful to her.
Just as men and women are different, just as a guy who likes sports and a geek who likes comics are different, aspies and people without Asperger’s (often referred to as neurotypical, or NT for short) are different.
I won’t pretend to be an expert on Asperger’s, but suffice it to say that I have dated someone who has it.
Below are some aspergers dating tips I found on the net.
One is by my friend out in California, Patricia Robinson, know as a coach for Aspergers.
I know that it is easy to find misinformation, but I have seen so much in books or online about Asperger’s marriages not working because the aspie can’t communicate, or married partners living like single parents because the aspie doesn’t engage with the children… A bit of background, my boyfriend was diagnosed as an adult, and he says that once he had a diagnosis things “clicked” for him about his life.
He’s had eleven years since then, and he has taken that time to learn about himself and Asperger’s, and as he says, “make it work for him” when he can. He is highly communicative, expressive, physically and verbally affectionate, and in many ways the boyfriend I dreamed about for ages.
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She wrote a nice article called Asperger’s and Dating: Getting Started Later in Life. Oftentimes, adults with Asperger’s, due to the challenges of navigating the social world, may have taken a while longer to develop socially.