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Aimed at teens and twentysomethings, the book discouraged teen relationships and proposed that courtship, in which a couple moves purposefully toward marriage with their parents’ blessing and involvement, was a superior model to dating.
And it argued that any kind of physical intimacy before marriage was a violation of the sacredness of married sexuality, and could lead to lifelong regret.
Recreational dating is an invention of the 20th century. The percentage of out-of-wedlock births to teenagers rose from 7% in 1955 to 65% in 1988. Are our realities actually harsher than in the past? But if in fact our realities are harsher, and our children must face these harsh realities to be properly prepared for marriage, why is dating not working?
If modern dating offers more benefits than historically proven and biblically modeled courtship, we should expect to see our youth today walking with greater sexual purity than in previous centuries. As parents have reduced their involvement in the courtship process over the last century, premarital sexual activity has increased proportionately. Those statistics represent a cross-section of America, but the Church isn't far behind. We have allowed them to be surrounded with moral temptations and have permitted them to suffer the consequences of intimate relationships, but they are not better prepared for life.
Harris was already a popular speaker at conferences for Christian home-schoolers and had started his own magazine, but the book’s influence quickly outpaced its modest built-in audience—it has sold more than 1.2 million copies to date. You weren’t just not having sex, you were adopting “a revolutionary pattern of living” that would make you both a better Christian and, someday, a better spouse.
Why the state of marriage doesn’t mean we lower our standards.
became a phenomenon in conservative Christian circles.
Dating should be something that is full of joy and happiness.
Studies also reveal that with more single Christians having sex, 1 of every 6 abortions is performed on a professing evangelical woman. Advocates of dating claim that courtship over-protects children from life's realities. As should be clear from the evidence, it is dangerous to spiritual wholeness and marital health. that dating is a more effective means of keeping young people sexually pure? that it is morally safe and therefore a "neutral" cultural practice? that dating is a superior method of preparing young people for marriage than courtship has proved to be in previous centuries? that those who date have healthier marriages today than those who court? that dating enhances young people's maturity in areas of self control, wisdom, and responsibility? that dating better promotes clear consciences, and keeps young people fit for maximum service to Christ? Yet, many will ignore the biblical precedent, disregard the evidence, and still defend dating and criticize courtship. Can you see us as 20th century Christian parents standing among a generation of self-absorbed, sexually promiscuous teens, pointing at the families with orderly, chaste children, and scolding them for being overprotective?
They might even venture that courtship succeeded in all past centuries, because life's realities were not as harsh then. Dating does not prepare young people for the difficulties of future life for many, it insures that future life will be difficult. There is something seriously wrong with this picture!
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As the couple begins to say their vows, a woman in the congregation stands up and walks toward the front of the church, silently taking the groom’s hand.